Many of us think that is a little odd to have "a day" to remember our mothers or fathers, etc, especially because year by year it has increasingly become so commercialized....
I call my mother every week, for almost everything....that is maybe to much, but its me....so it make me wonder about the other side...yes, how many times we truly remember to great our family our friends, if not for this "dates in our calendars"........ the people who maybe call them once a year, or on woman's day, or anniversaries, or earth day, or for mothers day, like when the wife remind her husband to sign a card to his mother (i saw this on a movie-so maybe its not true, specially if the wife remind her husband about her "mother in law"-90% of married couples are not fond about their in-laws) and he asked: this is for what??? and she said, its her birthday!.....and yes again, it can happen, our busy lives dont let us communicate much with our family or friends, it is never like when we were in school or college days.....we dont gather together and sing songs, or recite poems......not everybody, but at least a lot of us forget about it....
so for some of us it is great to have "a day" to remind us about some special person we leave beside, to reconcile with our beloved for some stupid fight, a day to remember we live on planet earth and we have to take care of it, because is our home, a day to cheer us up and tell us we are important.....yea, yea, we should always know we are important, but for some people, even just one, if you create just one smile on her, we are creating a chain of greatness.....have you hear about depression???, yes, those who had fight with it know how deep in the dark can you get, so terrible and so lonely we dont have anything to live for.....so, for me, yes...give me dates to help me be more compassionate, to take more care, to say I LOVE YOU, to say I AM SORRY, i miss you, you are wonderful, you are worthed.....a date to stop me from running and take care of simple and most important things in life.....
and my same friend also said this on a facebook comment:
"i really cant understand how pregnant women can only talk about pregnancy and mothers of a new-born child only talk about that child...but well...that's life with its imperfections and aspects one simple does not always grasp...."and i added this:
"i guess in my case i am just surrounding by girls with babies and i expend so much time in the park or something baby relates like "mom in touch group" that there is no much time for anything else...for know...i hope...we are in this mysterious word of tantrums, potty training, foods allergies, colic, fears, sleeping problems like i didnt know if babies are tired they just cry and cry and cry....i thought they will just shut their eyes and that is it!...and hundred of many surprises.....so maybe we feel so dumb and helpless that a little (or lot) of talking may help....especially when you hear that somebody else baby has the same problem...it sounds bad, but as i said you feel connected or find some kind of understanding...."
and it make me thinking again....in how awful i can sound talking a talking about my kids and their poops or else......and i can said know that it can be the same even between parents, when they said: "my little one change her clothes all by herself", so a nonparent person will think: "arent all kids change their clothes, what is she so happy about???" or think..." yea, right, but we weren't talking about the climate changes???....a parent of a 4 year old may think "at what age my daughter change by herself, sooner for sure..." a parent of same age kid will say "mine talks 10 words in two languages!!!"..yea, that will be me....shame on me.....but we all parents are like that.......(again a feeling of relief.....)
it also remind me when armando and i were living on ireland (childrenless) and he will get so annoying about the kids screaamming and crying on the bus...he said to me: "can i take one of them and throw it out the window"....but you should see him know....how much he loves to play with his children, and other children...just like another little one....i remember with my first baby i expend all my extra time reading about babies, books and books and on internet.....and i should said it help me a lot.....like when my emily start her terrible twos and throw herself to the floor backwards hitting her head...can you non-parent imagine that????, yes, i was all open mouth running for information on my little "cave man".....then i found it can get even worse, those little critters can bite themselves, scratch their faces and else........like my cousin reminded me of one of the many things i did/or said: she told me i use to said:" if you hit me, i will pee!!!!".......oh God, i guess i have nothing to complain about my kids.....
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